Feb 03 2010

Reinforcement for Children

Did you ever wonder how a child feels when his/her accomplishments are not recognized, acknowledged, or cheered on? I thought I understood kids, but, nothing short of a shared experience has the impact of truly helping us to understand how someone else, especially a young child feels. Please allow me to digress for a moment. On Friday night, I was the guest on a friend’s radio talk show.  The show went well; I felt as if I spoke succinctly, communicated my messages without appearing boring or too cocky and then, boom, the show was over.  Dara, the show’s host and I congratulated each other on a job well done and then, well, that was that.  It was then, that the child in me poked its head.  Like the youngster who craves attention, I wanted someone to praise me for a job well done.  Of course, being an adult, I was able to pat myself on the back and move on with the evening. But, in those few moments of isolation, I felt how devastating it must be for kids who never seem to get the recognition/reinforcement for their efforts and or accomplishments.  My friends, the power in the words, “good job”, “super try” and/or in a heartfelt hug should not be minimized.  I do believe that children’s self image is contingent on how others view them and so, our kindness and attention is not only lovely, but is critical in building healthy egos and boosting self confidence.  Of course, false praise can be as detrimental to building healthy children as no praise at all. So parents, teachers, and grandparents, be cognizant that your  attention,  words of praise on specific accomplishments/attempts and/or  extra hugs and high fives for a job well done  are imperative in communicating pride and joy as well as in building healthy and self confident  children.

Share a smile and give your children a special hug!!!

Magical Educating!

Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Jan 27 2010

In Support of Free Speech

If “Free Speech” is one of our basic rights as Americans, then why does my skin feel prickly when I hear derogatory words directed at people of color?  Why do I cringe when a man or woman speaks disrespectfully about the other’s gender?  Why do I shake my head in disbelief when people hold on to stale and untrue generalizations about groups of people and/or their religious beliefs?  The answer my friends, is that as long as our words do not compute to aggressive behaviors, we,  as an adult,  are entitled to believe, to read, and to say whatever  is on our minds.

Even though I find it disagreeable to hear and to acknowledge nasty and prejudicial comments, I do understand that each of us is entitled to our own feelings.  But then I wonder, does the same hold true for our children. While in school, should our kids be allowed to read anti-Semitic, anti- Moslem, or anti Anything books and articles without an educated, objective adult nearby?  To me, the answer seems obvious; if we are working towards building a more peaceful and empathetic world, our children’s education should be monitored so that when and if controversial issues present themselves, an educated teacher/parent is able to be part of the discussion.  I believe that a fair minded adult should work towards   neutralizing, explaining and/ or guiding our youngsters so that increased awareness rather than an acceptance of provincial attitudes perseveres.

Just recently, in an otherwise wonderful public school in Coral Springs, Florida, a little girl borrowed the book, Thanksgiving Stories and Poems from the school’s library.  As the second grader was independently reading the book, her mom decided to check the child’s reading skills.  To her surprise, she found that one of the stories in the book used derogatory language and scary text when telling the story of a Jewish immigrant’s experience upon arriving in America.

The question for me is, should this type of book be available to children without being monitored by an able adult or should the book be removed from the library’s shelf?  It seems that the local school had a meeting; their decision was to keep the book on the shelf.

 As a parent and as an educator, I am open to sharing and discussing different opinions, but, when it comes to our children, I do believe that extremes should be monitored.  I also believe that acceptance and tolerance for all people must be respected. It is our responsibility to review books, videos, texts, and music so that they fairly represent our multicultural population.  I am curious, what do you think?  If you would like to respond, please email me at donnamavrides@yahoo.com, thanks!!

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Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Jan 21 2010

International Assistance

Since International, national and local tragedies and catastrophic events bombard the news waves twenty four hours a day, how are we able to shield our little ones from the horrors that they are incapable of understanding. First, I would suggest watching the news and digesting its content while your children are off playing, sleeping, or otherwise being entertained. Not until you examine the enormity of the situation, like the earthquake in Haiti, gather facts and are in control of your emotions, should you introduce the newsworthy event to your school aged child. It is imperative to discuss scary, charged events in a non-threatening way so that your child feels safe and believes that he/she will be okay. After explaining the event (ie: the earthquake), it is important to ask your child what he/she thinks and feels.  I also believe that it is a wonderful time to brainstorm to see what actions he/she can think of that may alleviate the situation.  After such a session, it is important to follow thru with at least one of the ideas and/or strategies that were discussed.  For instance, if your child thinks that sharing a toy, writing a letter, or painting a picture can ease someone’s pain, please encourage him/her to get busy; make certain to send the donation through the proper channels so that your child begins to understand that ideas compute to plans and plans move forward into action.  In our world of instant gratification, it may be difficult for children to comprehend that tragedies cannot be “fixed” straight away, but rather are dependent on energy, devotion, prayer, compassion, resources, commitment, love, and time. As we keep our children sheltered and safe, we must instill a commitment to helping others and building empathy. Let’s work towards building a happier tomorrow!

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Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Jan 13 2010

Equality

Children will understand the concept of respect and equality if they live in a world where their individuality and diversity is applauded.  It is each teacher’s/parent’s responsibility to reinforce the belief that people be judged on merit rather than on superficial qualities like skin tone, ethnicity, income, and beauty. An age appropriate way to communicate this message can be achieved by sharing the following story with your boys and girls.

Before beginning the story, the teacher must have a cut-out of a circle, oval, rectangle, square, triangle, and heart.  A face should be drawn on one side of each shape and a small heart on the reverse side. Gather the children and begin the story of, “The Good School” (unknown author).

The Good School

Once upon a time there was a school where the students were different shapes. (Have the boys and girls identify the shapes of the cut-outs) The teacher informs the children that some of their friends are curvy and others have lines and points (illustrate the difference).  Sammy Circle, Tricia Triangle, Ricky Rectangle, Sally Square, and Ollie the Oval usually played cooperatively with one another. The teacher, Mrs. Heart was very proud of her loving students until the day she saw Sammy Circle and Ollie the Oval sitting and crying in a corner all by themselves. Mrs. Heart checked to see if the shapes were sick or if they were hurt, but, they were neither.  So, she asked Ollie and Sammy what the problem was.  Both of the shapes reported that the students with points were teasing them because they were curvy and thus, did not have any straight lines or points.  After hearing this, Mrs. Heart called the children together.  She began the discussion by asking the shape kids what things they do for fun.  It seemed that all of the kids loved playing the same games.  She continued the discussion by asking questions about what behaviors are kind and which are not lovely.  Finally, after listening to her students, Mrs. Heart turned the shape cut- outs over to reveal their hearts.  She explained that your appearance,  what you look like, does not make you special; but rather, it is the beauty of your inner heart that makes you caring, kind, and wonderful.  After the children acknowledged their loving hearts, they gathered together for a great big group hug, while Mrs. Heart looked proudly on.  From the moment on, the students never teased each other because of their differences, but rather, loved each other because of their loving hearts.

The End

The story of “The Good School” is a wonderful introduction to the unit on Martin Luther King Jr.  Additional activities, stories, crafts, and ideas can be attained by purchasing The Magical Moments Curriculum Guide.

Magical Educating!

Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Jan 07 2010

Happy New Year!!!

Happy 2010!  Let’s hope that is a year of peace, good health, prosperity, joy, laughter, compassion, serenity and inspiration for all of us.  Please join me in creating Magical “New Year’s” Moments for your preschool students by introducing activities from my Magical Moments Curriculum Guide.

THEME: HAPPY NEW YEAR

In order to provide the children with a warm welcome back to school, it might be fun to decorate the classroom with balloons and streamers before their arrival.  As each child enters the classroom, make certain to say, “Happy New Year”!

 I like to begin each day by displaying theme related, hands on activities on a table/tables designated as the Welcome Tables.  The activities get the boys and girls involved in appropriate behaviors as the teacher continues to welcome arriving students and engages in conversation with the children who are already seated and playing.

WELCOME TABLES:  I like to display glittery playdough, number shaped cookie cutters, and rolling pins on individual placemats for the children to play with.  It is fun to encourage the children to use their fingers to create designs, letters, or numbers into sand that has been poured into individual trays.  Objects that make sounds like trains, matching sound shakers, empty water bottles, bells, small pianos, rain makers, and /or other appropriate musical instruments can also be arranged for little hands to play with.  Puzzles, legos and counting/sorting (homemade or store bought) manipulatives are always a wonderful addition to the morning’s activities. The water table or large basins can be filled with shiny confetti, scoops, jars, and party hats so that children can have fun pouring and measuring. 

Additional theme related stories, fingerplays, crafts, musical selections, games, large and fine motor activities, and circle times can be found on each and every page of The Magical Moments Curriculum Guide.

I hope that you join me in making every school day, a day of wonder and joy for your preschoolers.

Magical Educating!

Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Dec 30 2009

Blog for the New Year

Happy and a Healthy New Year to my family, old and new friends, internet acquaintances, and of course the precious children that I come into contact with each and every day. To me, the New Year is exciting for it presents us with a particular date where we are encouraged to take a breath, review the past, plan, contemplate, and rewrite our personal commitments and strategies for the upcoming months.  Rather than stating rigid resolutions that seem difficult to live with and/or live up to, let’s  promise to gently alter perceptions and commit to caring about ourselves, our children, and our world with more sensitivity and compassion.  The New Year is like a gift that offers us a chance to evolve, expand and create our own metamorphosis.  Unlike the caterpillar, whose metamorphosis is predictable and etched in stone, each of ours is flexible and can be reevaluated and altered when necessary.  The dictionary’s definition of ‘faith” is belief in something without proof.  Faith offers us the chance to have hope, to think positively about ourselves, our kids, and our world.  Let’s have positive thoughts and faith that the upcoming year will be a wonderful one for all of us! 

Happy New Year, with love,

Magical Educating!

Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Dec 23 2009

In the Moment

Now that the holidays are in full swing, how many of us are still making lists, checking them twice, and wondering if things are naughty or nice? If you are like most people, I am confident that you are still busy planning, shopping, wrapping, etc.  As teachers and parents, we remind our children that it is ok not to be perfect and that mistakes are a vital part of growing and learning.  Well friends, I believe it is time for us to listen to our own words of wisdom. It is time to enjoy our family and friends… for the gift of “us” is the most precious gift of all. Holidays should not be a time for perfection, but rather, a time to show the people in your life how much you care and how special they are.  Holidays become extraordinary if you live “in the moment” without worrying about unimportant details.  Enjoy each and every moment that you are blessed with, play, love, and forgive yourself for imperfections.

Happy Holidays to All!

Magical Educating!

Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Dec 16 2009

Why Not Just Believe?

The strength inherent to the two little words, “I believe” is amazing.  Its power transforms the ordinary into extraordinary, the routine into sublime, and provides solace and comfort to many.  Believing in Santa, the Tooth Fairy, and/or other fictional creatures creates magical and memorable moments for our children.  Wouldn’t it be grand if we could all have images of little elves and sugar plums dancing in our heads?  Childhood is a time of imagery, a time of wonder, a time to feel safe, a time to accept, a time to question, and a time to “Just Believe”.  I hope that the magic of the season seeps into your hearts so that you, even if it is just for a little bit, BELIEVE in miracles along with your children.   Enjoy!  

And yes, I do believe!

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Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Dec 09 2009

Holidays with Children

If you are teaching young children at this time of year, it is imperative to be aware and sensitive to the customs, rituals, and traditions that your students and their families adhere to.  It is also very important to be knowledgeable about your individual school’s rules that govern holidays and celebrations.

To me, the month’s goals should include holiday traditions, non-religious, yet festive, songs of the season, and stories, both fictional and real that reflect joy, love, and the beauty of giving.  It is a wonderful time of the year to invite families into the classroom to sing songs, teach dances, talk, and share ethnic foods with the children. As always, diversity must be applauded and differences respected.  Instead of concentrating on the differences between the holidays, I like to focus on their similarities. Gift giving, lights, and love are integral to each of December’s holidays, Christmas, Hanukkah, and Kwanzaa   

You may want to begin the holiday unit be presenting props unique to their celebrations. It is important that your props be kid friendly so that the boys and girls are able to touch, smell, and play with them.  You may have a menorah, dreidle, small pine tree, stocking ,bell, candy cane, kinarra, woven mat, different colored and sizes of candles, and holiday lights.  After identifying the objects, you may play games and sing songs about them.  Depending on the children’s age and developmental levels, stories can be written or dictated, books listened to, paintings created, collages made ,patterns traced, words written, foods tasted, games played, beginning sounds emphasized, rhymes repeated, objects counted and sorted and group efforts rewarded. I think it is important for each child to create a special gift to give to his/her family as a token of the child’s love as well as a lesson in the joy of giving.

Detailed lessons, songs, games, crafts, gift ideas, story titles, large motor activities, and more can be found in The Magical Moments Curriculum guide. Happy Holidays to all!!

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Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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Dec 02 2009

Why Children Need to Play in School

At this time of the year, many parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and teachers are thinking of the “perfect gift” for their beloved children.   If you want to give your special little person the gift of a lifetime, please continue reading. The following ideas, facts, and conclusions have been taken from a report from the Alliance for Childhood by Edward Miller and Joan Almon, titled, “Why Children Need to Play in School” .

The authors report that although undocumented, many policy makers have convinced educators and parents that in order for kids to be successful in school, instruction in phonics and letter recognition must begin at an early age.  Miller and Almon counter this suggestion by stating that “didactic teaching of discrete skills in phonics, decoding, and word recognition may yield short-term gains in test scores,…..where as deeper experiential learning benefits last into fourth grade and beyond.”  You may be asking yourself, “What are deeper learning experiences?” Well friends, those happenings involve “active play”.  Play that is initiated by children, “fueled by their own ideas and rich use of language.”  The authors report that this sort of play motivates children to” invent, problem solve and pursue ideas.”  They report that children who engage in complex forms of play have “ greater language skills, better social skills, more empathy, more imagination,  less aggression,  show more self-control and display higher levels of thinking than the non-players.”  Miller and Almon say that, “Play is the foremost way that children use the language that they are hearing.” I keep asking myself, “If we know the benefits of play, why are our children engaging in less of it?” 

The authors are not suggesting that an “anything goes” attitude should exist in early childhood classrooms, but rather, that a healthy balance should be in place.  A balance based on the premise that teachers should provide children with varied experiences that encourage experiential learning and where child-initiated play is reinforced.  Early childhood and kindergarten classrooms should have teachers that gently guide rather than dictate children’s development.  Teachers should be nurturing and teaching without worrying about test scores and inappropriate standards.

The gift that you give your child may be in the form of a letter to a policy maker.  With manners intact, we must politely, yet forcefully,  demand that effective changes  takes place in local, state, and national early childhood and kindergarten classrooms.  Your letter will be strengthened if it includes ideas that Miller and Almon advocate.  In order for our children to reach their fullest potential, early childhood and kindergarten classrooms should:

  • Restore child-initiated play & experiential learning
  • Provide children time &space, both indoors and out, for kids to play
  • Encourage make believe, sensory, language, construction, large &small motor, & mastery play
  • Change developmentally inappropriate practices  that label children
  • End the use of inappropriate standardized tests for kindergartners
  • Give teachers instruction on emphasizing the development of the whole child
  • Nurture children’s innate love of learning

In order to give our children the opportunity to develop into emotionally stable, empathetic, competent and capable adults, we must try to sway the current educational trends that dismiss the importance of play in our children’s lives.  “In order for our children to become avid learners, teachers need to understand the ways in which child-initiated play, when combined with playful, experiential learning, leads to lifelong benefits in ways that didactic drills, standardized tests, and scripted teaching do not.”Please give your child the gift of a lifetime, the opportunity to “play”.  Please write to your policymakers today.

 Happy Holidays!

Magical Educating!

Donna Mavrides
Magical Moments
www.magicalms.com

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